Friday, January 13, 2006
Friends....Make The World Go Round!
One of my girlfriends and I decided, a couple of months ago, that we deserved one night a week OUT...no kids...no men...no cooking...no dishes! Since then we've only made it a couple of times due to 'outside' commitments...holidays...sicknesses...ect.. Last night we finally made it! We went out to dinner and talked and laughed and bitched and complained about our husbands, kids, jobs, life in general. After several hours of this we had solved all of the worlds problems, at least in OUR heads and we both went home with a smile on our face ready to deal with whatever the world threw at us.
When I was a kid my world revolved around reading and friends, books were always my BEST friend...they never lied to me...never hurt me....never disappointed me (that is a topic for another post).
I always needed someone to bounce my stupid ideas off to interact with. I always enjoyed listening to someone elses problems, hopes, dreams. I liked to be silly and have fun, I was always VERY shy so I needed trusted people around me in order to feel comfortable enough to 'let loose', oh...and a couple of bottles of Boons Farm Strawberry Hill or some Allen's coffee brandy never hurt either. I used to LOVE to laugh. After becoming a wife and mother, I began to become isolated, my life revolved so completely around my family, including sick siblings and parents, that I lost contact with the outside world. I thought that was what it meant to be a 'responsible adult'. I'd begun too loose the part of me that could have fun. I watched myself grow very old before I should. I remember thinking that my parents were ancient at 40, they never left the house, never laughed, never were silly. I decided, shortly after my mother died, that I would not give up my 'fun side' without a fight and I've tried very hard to keep that promise to myself, sometimes being more successful then others. I realized that I truely needed friends around me to make me happy, I couldn't exist just thru my husband and kids, I'd even read a couple of articles saying that people who "socialized" lived longer, happier lives.
So now I am in the process of trying to nourish the few precious friendships that I have, renew some old ones and search for some new ones. I have always been a strong beleiver that it is not the 'quantity' of friends that is important but the 'quality'.
LIVE...LAUGH...LOVE!
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